The People Have Spoken


For the most part the trip was drama was free, however the tension between Simone and Toya continues to mount.  Toya was on Simone like white on rice. I mean she went from zero to ten in 30 seconds when talking to Simone.  I’m sure Toya is frustrated with Simone treating her like she’s the village idiot, after all Toya does appears to be the one of the two that doesn’t seem to suffer from selective amnesia.  It was quite evident that Simone is the source of her own mess.  Unfortunately, Simone failed to realize that Toya telling me that she invited “the drama” to the cabin after I choose to remove and disassociate myself from “the black cloud” is where the messiness lies.  Why not respect my wishes as a friend instead of insisting on putting me in a compromise position. I offered not to attend the couples retreat to make the decision easier for everyone. I don’t understand the motivation for inviting “the black cloud” in the first place after the group came to the consensus it was best not too. #ARealMess

One question, what century is this? During the group discussion about relationships, we learned that Eugene may know his way around the kitchen, but I’m hoping he doesn’t feels a wife’s “idle” time is best filled with having children.  Don’t get me wrong, if a woman chooses to get married and become stay at home mom that’s fine.  However, I feel a woman shouldn’t be restricted to only parenting and raising a child. A woman should be afforded the opportunity to maximize her potential if she desires to be career driven.  Women can be decision makers in the board room, and a devoted wives and supermoms at home.  Sharing money and a uterus in the marriage is cool, lol. Please know the workforce can be shared as well.

Dr. G had a breakthrough. I was happy to express to my husband why I’m so adamant about remaining a career woman. Although my husband originally preferred that I not be so ambitious, he slowly began to come around and understand why it is a personal need for me to continue as a career woman.  Financial independence is imperative especially for a woman in my opinion.  I was an independent woman before I met my husband and that’s not going to change now that I’m married.  There is something to be said for a woman who earns her keep and makes her own money. She doesn’t have to ask anyone if she can have or spend money.  She’s in control.  I fully support that when two people get married “I/my” becomes “us/our,” but there’s nothing like contributing financially to the household too.

I have to take a moment and commend Jackie.  During our football game, she took one for the team and got ran over by Eugene aka “The Blue Ridge Train”.  It looked more like Jerome Bettis “The Bus” running over Brian Urlacher. Didn’t even see it coming honey!  The fact that she walked away from that hit with relatively no injuries is amazes me.

By the end of this trip, the ladies came to a realization of their own. They realize that the trip was relatively drama free, and why. They conclude that this was because the source of the group’s usual drama was not present. The ladies then proceeded to agree that they will no longer be in the company of the “black cloud”.  Take note I did not influence or persuade the women to make that decision in any way. #Clarity #NoMoreDrama #ThePeopleHaveSpoken

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